Double the Trouble, Double the Pain

So I haven't updated you guys in awhile....
Guns and I are working on our relationship at this time. He knows he has lot of making up to do and a lot of work getting me to trust him again. He started by sending me my favorite flowers/plant in the whole wide world: ORCHIDS!!!! I love them so dearly. We talk every night and we have come to the agreement of separate counseling and also marriage counseling. I really believe that this will help us better our marriage....but this isn't why I am writing you per say. I will be talking about me and Guns but this blog isn't really about us, it's about his twin brother (we will call him Diesel) and his wife (we will call her Rose).

Now everyone knows that there are different types of identical twins, some twins even have this special way of communicating with each other. Guns and Diesel are mirror image twins, one is a lefty the other is a righty. When one is having a bad day the other is having the best day of his life. Almost like yin and yan.

After Guns and I made up, Rose and Diesel started to fight, only in this story Diesel is the good person.....(Not saying Rose as done anything wrong). They got into an argument which Rose end up leaving<---Because that is the only way she knows how to deal with her problems. Diesel has called and apologize for the fight on so many occasions but it doesn't help. Rose wanted to feel in control of the relationship she didn't want to accept his apologize as yet. She wanted him to suffer some more.

Now Rose is a good person, she just doesn't know the best way to go about handling her argument with her husband, after all she had no real structure in her life and no real friends to talk to about her relationship. Rose and Diesel have both been there when Guns and I were going through our rough times; so compelled to be there for their rough time. After she left, Diesel would vent to me, telling me how he felt and asking him what I thought he should do. I told him that she give her time and watch how he addresses thing with her, but he has been a week since she left.

They would talk and things would seem like it was ok and then it went back down the hill again. So he gave me the phone one day to talk to her and tell her what I felt about the ways are going. Give her a perceptive of the relationship from the outside looking in.

I told her I understand that she wanted him to understand what he said and why she was upset, but while she was busy getting the upper hand in the relationship, she didn't realize that she was pushing him away. I tell you, this man really loves this girl. He has tried his best to do what she wanted and give her the time and space but he can't just sit by and not say anything to her.

He has done everything to get her to come back, he has tried to play by her book but it isn't working. He has been venting with me for the last couple of days and two days ago he said the my advice worked and she wants to come back and live with him and then all of a sudden, he doesn't hear from her all day yesterday. He work last night tossing and turning in his sleep because he kept thinking of her.

We went outside to talk and he said he feel stupid in away for defending her reasons, he doesn't understand why she hasn't called him all day or answered her phone and it was 11:30pm. He had 4 hours left before he needed to wake up and get ready for work. He was describing the feeling he had in his stomach when he tried to sleep, he said that it felt like a roller coaster riding; reaching to the top and being dropped 50 ft.

Now guys, I know you have read the blogs about me and Guns and his twin brother is the complete opposite. I told him the other day that he needs to talk to his brother because maybe his personality would rube off on him. This man is doing everything he can do to save his marriage but he doesn't know how much more he can put up with...and I don't blame him. I mean, Rose needs to grow up, you can't run every time you have problems and expect everything to be fine when you want it to be. She runs from there problems because that's what her mom did with her dad. She doesn't realize that the games she is play can cause her not to have a husband anymore.

She thinks she is doing the right thing by not answering his calls and staying away but the only thing it does it put thoughts in his head and pushes him away. He has come to the point where, if she doesn't come back up with him after Easter, he is going to file for a divorce. He told me as much as he loves her and much as it will be hard for him to do it, he will get a divorce. He doesn't think it is fair to him to have to put up with it and go through what he is going through any longer. He is the one who is trying to talk about it and work on it. He said that he is tired of sleeping without his wife and I don't blame him

It sucks that all of this is happening but this is apart of life.

Until then
Kisses xoxo