2 Years and 10 Days

So it has definitely been awhile since I've last posted....

**UPDATES**UPDATES**UPDATES**
-Within the last two years I have graduated college with a BA in Communication Studies (Whoot Whoot)
-Diesel and Rose are divorce (ohhhh soooo much to tell on that one)
-And I am divorcing (YAYYYYYYYYYYY)


So much has happened between the two years that I have last posted I really don't know where to begin. I am definitely in a better place in my life sort of speak. My life as been a roller coaster ride since I began blogging and I have finally decided that I want more for myself. So I graduated college Dec of 2010 and I moved back to my hometown, which started my exploration of what I really want out of life. So I guess I should start with the updates I've listed above:

•       So like I said I graduated college with a BA in Comm Studies, however, the economy is so horrible, I still have not been able to put my degree to good use (I still have a job though, just not a career)

•       After the cheating incident with Rose, her and Diesel went through a whole lot of breaking up and getting back together, and a lot of military BS about adultery, and alimony. Pretty much she tried to say he was abusive and that he is the reason she didn't graduate high school and he needed to pay for her to stay home because she can't get any jobs. They did a full investigation on him and her, questioning everyone about the accusations and also the cheating and if it was really cheating yadda yadda yadda...needless to say it was a long ol' drawn out divorce where a lot of names where called and they are finally done with...HOWEVERRRR, he is in a no better relationship than he started out...after Rose cheated and he finally left her, he went through a binging stage where dated and slept with random girls just to say he did it. Then he finally met the stripper of the his dreams, still married with a 6 month old son (at the time) and they fell in love and lived happily ever after NOOOTTTTT!!! Omg...they are a match made in heaven let me tell you, they both are ignorant to life, and have no ambition whatsoever. She is looking for someone to take care of her and her son, and he is looking for someone to need him. There we have it folks perfect relationship!!! (there is more to this story but it's not worth getting into) Needless to say Diesel and I's relationship is not the same anymore, I pretty much despise him, he has turned out to be a true asshole, and wishing Guns was anything like him was definitely a mistake. He is just as big of an asshole, no disregard to anyone's thoughts, feelings, and concerns. (Yes my relationship with him changed drastically) He puts his brother down any chance he gets, and the sad part about it is that Guns feels like he always have something to prove to Diesel, as if they are not equals. And I don't like that one bit, despite how our (Guns and I) marriage turn out to be.

•      So yes, the final update, Guns and I are divorcing. We pretty much came to this conclusion before we left our military town but it wasn't final until we moved back to our hometown. Before the divorce decision, was the separation. It wasn't legal, it kinda happened when I found out about a phone conversation he had with a female that we went to high school together, a conversation a married man should never have with anyone but his wife. That was pretty much the straw that broke the camel's back. We continued to live together but nothing was the same, we would sleep in separate rooms, we tried to make it work a few times, but he decided he want to be 23 (that was his age at the time) and live a single life and do what normal 23 yr old's do, and if he didn't get anything out of it he will come back to me (you got to be @#!$!!! kidding me) Please take a gander on what I did???? I deuced out!!! I mean come on...do you really think I was gonna sit around and wait to see if you want to be married. After everything was said and done he realize that he didn't want the single life...but it was too little too late. (Let me back track a little, before this story starts going all over the place) When we first moved back home, he moved in with his parents and I moved in with mine. When you come to the end of your term in the military, they always do a career service program, where you start career planning...do you think my genius of a husband took that serious NOOOOOOOOOOO...he wanted to do private contracting and he knew people who wanted to do the same thing and spoke to some folks and he have that all lined up blah blah blah blah blaahhh...He moved back and did get a gig with the oil spill clean up doing security, but the private contracting job wasn't as legit as he thought, he wasn't getting paid the 20,000 dollars a month that he thought we would go straight into...the lifestyle that he convinced himself about and tried to convince me, was no where close to that. During that time he wanted to be single, but him being single meant him having fun and partying and drinking and sleeping around with girls, it didn't mean for me to go out with friends and have a good time. That didn't sit well with him, because it's not fair for me to have the party life and he has to be a security guard for the clean up...so now he wants me back. He wants things to work, he doesn't want to be by himself...at this point I had so much resentment towards him, it didn't matter what he wanted...I was loving my independence. I gave him so much of me, I forgot what that was so I was not quick to give back. Needless to say, he came home and begged and begged and I finally gave in, but I told him how I truly felt about him and I don't love him as I did anymore and it will take awhile for that to come back. So he tried everything he could, but nothing worked. Once the passion and emotion is gone out of a relationship, there is no reason to work through it because it's done with. I tried my best to love him again, but I couldn't. I really sat down an thought about my life...I realize this is no way a man and wife is suppose to live...he wanted me to come move in his parents place with him....so pretty much for me to come live with him and his parents WTF...no no no no no no no...why would I do that. One, he doesn't have a job, two I HATE his parents, three REALLY??? Live with your judgmental mother who still hasn't figured out how to cut the umbilical cord from 24 yrs ago...What kind a life is that, shouldn't a man want to provide for his wife and himself...shouldn't he want more out of life than that...apparently not this one, all he wanted to do is sit back and collect unemployment and figure out away to get disability for the rest of his life and be paid to go to school. <------That right there is what really made me reassess my life. This is not what I signed up for, this is not what I expected for my life...a college graduated, a well educated young woman who has a lot to offer...to say all I did in life is work a dead end job and lived with a husband who was too lazy to work and wanted to collect unemployment and the only reason why he went to school was to get money from the GI bill. So I made the decision on finally divorcing, I wasn't going anywhere in life if I was still with him. He was like a tumor growing in my life and I needed to cut him out before I had nothing left. Before I was married, I had wanted so much out of life and I would jump at anything that came my way, once I got married that changed, I did what was neccessary for my marriage, don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with that IF you guys worked as a team and there is a greater outcome, but if you're the only one that is putting in useless work, then no...time for a change. And that is exactly what I did. 

Now we are in my present day of life, Guns and I are still on good terms, we speak to each other, occasionally have a good laugh or two. However, we both realize that this decision is the best one, and I just pray that he one day wakes up and wants more out of life. Now I'm doing me, loving life, can't wait to see what's next for me. I have taken the first step to really living my dream...soon I will be making more life changing events, like making a big move all by myself to the other side of the country to explore my passion. I have no idea what is in store for me and it scares me, but that is exactly why I am doing it. I want to know that I actually gave it a shot.




So thank you to everyone who wished us well...thank you to everyone who tuned in. Stick around I know it's been awhile since I've done this, but I have a feeling that blogging is going to help me get through this life changing move and if one of my favorite ppls in the whole world would do the move with me because he needs it (love ya risa)

Until then


Kisses xoxo